I first heard of this crazy thing a few years ago when my friend told me about it.
I couldn’t believe what I heard then. I was floored, to say the least.
In this case, my friend told me his friend sent a maid to accompany his son to study in the US.
And just a few days back, I read an article about how undergraduates of Singapore’s Nanyang Technological University brought their maids from home to help clean hostels for them.
Before I go on, I want to make it clear that I am NOT singling out anyone here.
Here’s the question from the article:
“Is it wrong to get your maid to clean your room in a university hostel?”
Wanna know what I think?
Here’s my answer: No, it’s not.
I know you are shocked to hear my answer.
But wait…
That answer comes with one condition: If your child pays for the maid, then it is fine for him to do so. Otherwise, it’s not okay.
I always think that university days is the time for students to learn to be independent and stand on their own feet (at least for me). That’s the time parents should let go of the child and let him experience life as an independent adult. That’s the best time for undergraduates to prepare themselves to live their own lives after graduation.
Parents must not stand in the way of the child’s growth. Sending maids to help them doing chores they are supposed to do themselves is TOTALLY out of the question.
If you don’t want your child to turn into a spoiled brat, you have to do something when he’s as young as 4 or 5 years old. Teach him about responsibility and accountability at home. Start with small tasks such as making bed, setting up table for dinner, washing dishes, and so on.
Don’t let your maid do everything. Let your child do some of the chores. Let him know he has a role to play being part of the family. Tell him he has to earn it before he gets anything.
If you don’t do this, prepare to have a child who doesn’t grow up even after he leaves university.
With a degree in hand, he may still needs you to wipe his ass after doing the business.
In short, he will come back and bug you until you go to the grave.
And when that happens, don’t tell me I didn’t warn you.
P.S. Want to know how I do it? I will share more in my upcoming book “The Uncensored Guide to Parenting.”
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