“I don’t want to go to library.”
That was the reply I received when I asked my daughter about our plan to a local library.
I was shocked to hear the answer as J was totally enjoying herself in the last trip.
As a natural response, after getting such an unexpected reply from her, I was planning to give her a list of 101 reasons why libraries were good and she should change her mind.
Fortunately, I didn’t. Instead, I probed further.
Me: “Why did you say that?”
J: “The library is cold. I don’t like it.”
Me: “If that is the case, let us see what we can do about it. What about you bring a sweater there? If you feel cold, you put on the sweater. It will keep you warm in the library.”
J: *smiling as she nodded her head*
Even though it was a short conversation but it’s crucial enough for me to realize that I should not jump into a conclusion too fast. I thought J didn’t like libraries because of other reasons. And apparently it was not the case. It was due to another reason – the temperature – a reason that never crossed my mind.
Making assumptions on what our kids think is a stumbling block to parent-child communication.
I was happy I was patient enough not to give her a lecture before finding out the real reason behind it. And as my wife and I expected, the trip to the library that day was awesome. And J brought home some fantastic books that she now reads every night, religiously.
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See also…
How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk: A Review & Mind Map
